I LOVE Brene Brown. I have read so many of her books, and they all resonate with me in different ways. I feel her super power is the ability to perfectly put words to difficult to explain emotions and states of mind.
Well, she has done it again with this short clip about perfectionism. So many of us struggle with perfectionism, or rather the PURSUIT of perfectionism. I say pursuit because I believe there really is no such thing as perfect (obviously), and so many get stuck in the rat race of trying to be perfect, but never truly achieving it, which thereby increases feelings of anxiety, depression, and self-hatred because we failed to reach perfect….and cue the negative self-talk….
It’s exhausting just reading that, right??
I agree with Dr. Brown in that perfectionism is a form of armor to protect ourselves. “Perfect” comes with some pretty empowering connotations – excellent, foolproof, untarnished, faultless, defectless, supreme. So I can totally understand the desire to be someone who is described as such. But from my own work and perspective, I also believe it can be a form of self-sabotage, since we all (logically) know perfection isn’t possible. Then we beat ourselves up for not achieving the impossible. So we set ourselves up for failure from the beginning. Perfectionism is very complicated, and most often a symptom of a more deeply seated self-image struggle.
Anyway, without further ado, I present to you Dr. Brown’s quick clip about perfectionism. Have a look for yourself and let me know what you think!